Archive for the ‘ Anxiety/Obsessiveness ’ Category
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” Anais Nin Therapy is NOT about trying to take something away from you. We are all lopsided in various ways. I’m a risk taker & not as good at being careful. Growing to have more range means improving my risk taking nature to include more possibilities [ READ MORE ]
Mistakes are REALLY, REALLY, REALLY important! Fear has the power to stop you from making mistakes. I write about this often because I see more & more kids struggling to avoid mistakes & the larger world. The path to independence requires mistakes. “I won’t do it if I can’t do it right.” is something many [ READ MORE ]
“Mindfulness is the miracle by which we can call back our dispersed mind & restore it to wholeness so that we can live each minute of life.” Thich Nhat Hanh in The Miracle of Mindfulness I’ve just taken my third online course on the brain & it’s very clear that mindfulness has a huge impact. [ READ MORE ]
There are many ways to trick yourself into believing you are managing your worries & fears. There are many ways to hide out in perfectionism: Everything will be ok if I do my best to look good & try hard to get everything right. I must avoid being uncomfortable & make sure I get what [ READ MORE ]
Top Chef is the only reality show I watch because it doesn’t promote bad behavior. My daughter introduced us to it & it’s now a family activity that includes her husband. It’s about people with skills competing. Like baseball, highly skilled people still get things wrong and make mistakes. The winner of the all-star season [ READ MORE ]
In relationships there is an enormous amount of uncertainty. Young couples leap into the certainty of sex because it is hard for them to tolerate all the uncertainty of beginnings. In a majority of relationships there is tremendous uncertainty in years 6 – 10, because all the illusions have fallen away. The hard work of [ READ MORE ]
Control and criticism are often side effects of anxiety. They are like a set of earrings that match the necklace of anxiety. Alcohol and addictions can be the matching bracelet to this jewelry because that becomes a solution to tamp down the fears. When someone controls the labels alphabetically on their soup cans they feel more [ READ MORE ]
I work with many people who really struggle when I ask them what they want. For many, there is a strong, inner pull to only attend to another’s wants because it is easier. They often will be drawn to someone who is very clear about their wants and goes after them with devotion. They are [ READ MORE ]
In response to my last post, I was asked to publish this letter. Jack Nicholson played someone who suffers with OCD in the movie As Good As It Gets. Research on OCD and genetics is crucial for treatment in the future. Please consider helping this study yourself or pass along the information to anyone you [ READ MORE ]
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