Archive for the ‘ Dating/Single ’ Category
January is often a more optimistic month than February. In January my clients have an excitement about a new year beginning and are open to possibilities that 2012 will be a better year. Then February rolls in and people feel pinched by how hard life can be and feeling discouraged is on the daily menu. [ READ MORE ]
Over & over couples find themselves happy to be back in their relationships that were once thought lost. I ask, “What have you both decided will be different this time around?” Not once has anyone given me an answer. This oft-repeated experience is called premature reconciling. Both partners are caught up in the myth that [ READ MORE ]
Meeting someone in a bar is unlikely to guarantee success. Online dating can be very discouraging. Many of my single clients get very hopeless about ever finding the right partner. On the holidays, it’s harder to be single for many people. One example, would be parties where everybody is a couple & you go alone. [ READ MORE ]
I asked for this blog because I know how hard it is to persevere in dating, discouragement is ordinary. From Guest Blog Post Writer who is 32 yrs. old: I have learned to detest the grocery store. Shopping on a Sunday, by myself, dodging all of the happy couples planning their weekly meals as I [ READ MORE ]
Many relationships begin when someone wants to be rescued from their life, like Cinderella who found her prince. One way to jack up your self-esteem is to be the hero for someone else. Lenny, the hero of Super Sad True Love Story admits he has a history of dating abused women that he can rescue, [ READ MORE ]
These are people who maintain control & power by making distance into an art form. This means they do very little they don’t want to do. Their pleasure is being in charge and not really being vulnerable to anyone else. Vulnerability costs them too much. This is the guy you’ve been dating, then you find [ READ MORE ]
The big bad wolf was really nice to little red riding hood. So what, he ate up her grandmother. A client came in today & said she shares her “Rhodaisms” with all her friends. One of them is “He’s just nice. Nice is not enough.” Nice is only the surface and it’s easy to appear [ READ MORE ]
Working with several divorced families recently made me seriously consider this question. It’s obvious that divorce is difficult for children because their whole world collapses. Often the imprint of divorce leaves major trust issues. It is ordinary for an adolescent with divorced parents to say “I’ll never get married.” Yet there has to be more [ READ MORE ]
Nice guys finish last in relationships. This means you aren’t making enough clear statements about who you are and what you want. Too often nice guys will hide their own wants in a question. So they ask, “Will you have the kids fed?” instead of the more authentic statement, “I’d like you to have the [ READ MORE ]
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