Archive for the ‘ Adolescents ’ Category
Wondering what career to invest yourself in? It’s hard to figure out what you might want to do for the rest of your life. It’s a very daunting task. Lots of people drown in the overwhelmingness of it. Kids in college struggle with whether or not they’ve made the right choice & wandering from major [ READ MORE ]
It has been a delight to stumble into another strong female character in Katniss, the heroine at the heart of the trilogy that begins with The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins. I grew up in the female heroine desert of the 60′s. It’s why Ripley played by Sigourney Weaver was such a revelation in 1979. [ READ MORE ]
Mothers & daughters fight the most of any parenting pair. Fathers usually have no idea what to do about it and feel helpless or disgusted. What are Teen girls so unhappy about with their mothers? I hear the same refrain; “She doesn’t understand me.” “She doesn’t have a clue who I really am!” “She just [ READ MORE ]
Expectations have a way of snarling up all relationships. We have ideas of who partners are supposed to be & of who we should be. We have ideas of who our children should be (SAFE roars in the heads of those who parent adolescents) and of who we will be as parents. “I will be [ READ MORE ]
You don’t really earn your medals as a parent until you’ve survived adolescence. Adolescence is rugged territory for everyone involved. I really enjoy the opportunity to work with both parents and young people. This is an opportunity to teach both about respect. Young people can work at defining themselves differently from their parents without being [ READ MORE ]
When you are wrapped up in your own pile of hurt, it’s almost impossible to see the other person clearly. Taking things personally is like taking a hammer to hurt your own hand, which is a very bad idea. Hurt becomes a false cocoon of “safety” that really demolishes any opportunity for real understanding. The [ READ MORE ]
As reported in The Week (1/29/10), a recent study of high school and college students, has discovered higher levels of anxiety, depression and unrealistic, manic optimism than in any previous generation since the Great Depression. Researchers suggested that materialism, an emphasis on superficial things, overprotective parenting and a lack of sleep all contribute to their [ READ MORE ]
It’s important for kids to have enough space to grow into greater independence. Like my work, parents are supposed to do themselves out of the job. With all of our technology it is tempting to crowd kids with the parent’s need for connection. This is similar to spanking because spanking is usually about the parent’s [ READ MORE ]
My husband and I grew up with a sense of obligation to be with our parents. It is interesting that neither of us was ever able to move very far beyond that. So it came as a surprise when I asked my son how he felt when we visited him in April and he said [ READ MORE ]
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