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NEW TRAUMA & PTSD PAGE ON WEBSITE

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August 11, 2015 • About Rhoda

I spent years working with rape & incest victims for Pittsburgh Action Against Rape, many decades ago. Trauma is a big deal. If you are struggling with trauma or love someone who is, take the time to learn more about it. Trauma can interrupt the bravest of individuals, as depicted in Clint Eastwood’s movie American… Read More ›

Couples/Relationships »

Defensiveness, a Very Bad Habit that Destroys Communication

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Defensiveness is a powerful way to reassure yourself. Everybody does it almost every day if they have relationships. Defensiveness is a knee jerk reaction that says “Oh,no that’s not me, you don’t get what a good person I really am! I am so misunderstood.” The irony is that the misunderstanding is usually yours, not theirs…. Read More ›

Communication »

Relationships, Communication & Sharing Power

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Think about all the arguing couples you know and ask yourself, how many of them are good at sharing power? There are many couples where one person caters to the other. Often men cater to women to make them happy in the beginning of relationships. Then there are many couples where a power imbalance is… Read More ›

Manipulation »

The Blame Game: Demonizing the Other

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Many of us find great comfort in demonizing our ex spouses or ex friends to make it easier to banish them from our world. This is a very 1 or 10, black or white, self serving point of view. We call this either/or thinking which is always about the extremes. Psychotherapy is often about the… Read More ›

Personal Growth »

The Path to Improve Motivation Requires Being Authentic

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Motivation seems illusive for so many people. Motivation isn’t simply being positive. Don’t falsely perky waitresses drive you crazy because it’s really all about being trained to sell an upgrade; there is nothing real about it. I contend that motivation has to be real in some way. Passion can be difficult for people to locate… Read More ›

Divorce »

Divorce Spills Over On To Kids & the movie “What Maisie Knew”

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Divorce is an opportunity for people to indulge their intensity & hoarded resentments on to everyone. Normally sane people will shriek when they meet their spouse in the grocery store. They are past caring how it looks because they are fueled by self-righteousness. Divorce is an invitation to be your worse self, even in front… Read More ›

Movies & TV »

Snowpiercer the Movie & How to Build Character

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Snowpiercer is a wonderful “end of the world” movie. We seem to be swimming in apocalyptic films & t.v. shows. I’ve always loved science fiction in books because it was an appreciation learned from my Father. Snowpiercer is extremely dark with a high body count. Snowpiercer is a metaphor for our times. The “have-nots” are… Read More ›

About Rhoda »

NEW TRAUMA & PTSD PAGE ON WEBSITE

(3) trauma,childhood trauma, PTSD, emotional trauma,EMDR,trauma counseling

I spent years working with rape & incest victims for Pittsburgh Action Against Rape, many decades ago. Trauma is a big deal. If you are struggling with trauma or love someone who is, take the time to learn more about it. Trauma can interrupt the bravest of individuals, as depicted in Clint Eastwood’s movie American… Read More ›

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