First Lady Jenny Sanford said:
“Of course I’m not saying that Mark is gay. But he may as well be. The moral decay in this country has claimed another victim and this time it was my family. Our marriage was perfect until these laws started passing around the country. Clearly the slow dissolution of the sanctity of marriage in America seeped into Mark’s psyche until he no longer felt compelled to abide by our vows.”
This is a clear example of the comfort blame offers. Gay Marriage becomes a convenient scapegoat for their problems. It’s certainly a lot easier than looking at yourself and trying to find the 10%-20% part you may have played in this sad state of affairs. Problems in a marriage are always contributed to by BOTH people. Does the person who has the affair have 80%-90% of the responsibility because they did not address the problems with their partner and went looking for a soul mate? Yes! The fact he describes the other woman as a soul mate is indicative of missing intimacy. Why is it easier for him to talk to television cameras than his wife? Jenny deserves sympathy because the spotlight on her pain makes this especially unbearable. Gay Marriage has nothing to do with her problems with her husband. It’s all about them, no one else. Blame is really unbecoming and not useful.
How do you forgive somebody who’s soul mate is someone else? (My daughter wisely asks.)